Oh, Materialism

Just because I have preferences for Caucasian females doesn’t mean that I attracted to every single one of them. As I’ve mentioned before, what makes them so attractive to me is their qualities of communication and expression. This is not to say that Asian women do not have any of these qualities, but I have not been fortunate enough to experience it.

In terms of physical attraction, she has to be attractive. Well I’m not asking for drop dead gorgeous, but she carries herself in her feminine grace. She takes care of her physique with a balanced diet and regular exercise, and keeps a natural look in terms of makeup. Some people say that Asian men prefer straight hair on their woman, but I would say it really doesn’t matter. Perhaps if they are born and raised in Asia, then it’s something they are used to, but for me, whatever you like – just keep it tasteful. This good taste also applies to fashion as well. Women in general have a keen sense of fashion unlike their male counterparts.

What I have noticed from Asian fashion and European fashion is there’s a subtle difference in the ideologies. Asian fashions tend to have this blending in quality. The lines are smoother and less pronounced than European fashion, in a sense diverging energy away. This may not seem so apparent in North America because the style has its unique identity here – but in Asia, it’s ubiquitous. I really have no problem with that. What really drives me up the wall is materialism. The accumulation of designer purses turns me off.  How about you spend that money towards something more useful, like your mortgage or monthly utilities?

Yes, Asians have this inherent nature of respect, but beyond the general seniority rule, Asian culture somehow places emphasis on social status. In a sense, everyone would love to be wealthy, but this takes precedence over happiness in Asian culture. You could say the order of our priorities is: Job, money, social status, family, then finally “love and happiness”.

For Caucasian women, love and happiness takes higher priority – they don’t mind living comfortably without a lavish lifestyle. This is a refreshing change for Asian men who have spent a great majority of their time pursuing Asian females. The bonus is that we are still programmed to provide as an Asian male. Really, it’s because we don’t have many ways of expressing ourselves, we just want to show that we care.

The toughest part for Asian men is learning to break free of some societal expectations. We are often placed into a submissive role dominated by the female. The woman in the relationship has quite a bit of leverage. While the male is programmed for income earning, the woman dictates how the funds are managed for the household. While we may not know this, it’s instinctively programmed into the Asian male.

The bottom line, make sure you know what you want.