Western Women and Foreign Asian Men
December 27, 2010 4 Comments
So there has been a lot of talk, articles, and some books instructing and encouraging Asian men in the art of attracting a westernized female. But rarely do you see anything directed specifically at westernized women who are interested in Asian men. So I thought I would explore this topic a bit, because it seems to me that women should play a big part in attracting an Asian male as well.
Let’s take a step back and think about how the average Asian male is presented in westernized society. In movies and TV, Asian men are mostly seen as side kicks, gangsters, martial artists, and anything but the type of guy that would come along and romance a westernized women. So when it comes to a women’s natural instinct to be attracted to a sexually competent man, Asian men have not taken center stage in this regard (even though we know Asian men are just as good lovers as any man). Further, when it comes to a man’s physical appearance, westernized culture has taught women to look for tall, well dressed, men with more stereotypically masculine features. Again we often find that some Asian men are shorter then the average westernized women, thinner in body build, and have less stereotypical masculine features then their white male counterparts. Despite all this, many women actually find these more traditional characteristic of Asian men attractive. Yes, really, I am not joking…How many times do I hear women say I love Asian eyes, hair, and features? How many times do I hear westernized women say they are interested in Asian cultures? I hear it quite often.
So as a women what’s stopping us from taking that step to talk to an Asian man we may find attractive? Traditionally men were supposed to make the first move, initiate contact, but this is a modern era where women are running companies, and changing the world! So as far as I am concerned there is no excuse for not approaching a man when you are interested. Most westernized women are raised to be friendly and confident, so you go girl! Ok wait, that’s all well and good, but what if I don’t know how he will respond to me. Maybe he still has a traditional way of thinking and would never consider being with a westernized women. What if he has some feelings of inferiority because I make more money then him? (Which can often happen for those men who live in china, and etc..) What if he has had a bad experience with other westernized women? Would he even be willing to give me a chance?
Theses are questions I know run through every woman’s mind when she is interested in a man from Asia. No matter how much she may know about the culture, language, foods, and etc, she still has reservations. The same reservations an Asian man may have about westernized females. So, when you really look at the situation its kind of funny because the very things that we are attracted to are the things that sometimes keep us from making that move to talk to that guy. If you have ever talked to any AMWF couples you will find that there is usually never a problem with blending cultures, that each is open and accepting of each other. They are dedicated and committed to a long lasting relationship, and are willing to work hard to keep each other happy. So let me ask you, what is stopping you from removing the barriers of stereotypes, from talking to that cute Asian guy….nothing… right!