Why are Men from Asia Worried About Having a Relationship with White Women?

In a collectivist society, when it comes to dating and relationships, you are almost 100% guaranteed to know what you getting into. I mean lets face it, when everyone is taught to behave the same way without much variations, you pretty much know what to expect from your partner. Sure, there will be differences in materialist things like looks, money, status and etc, but aside from that, you know what you’re getting. But as a man from Asia looking out onto the western world, into a sea of women that all look different and are from different cultures, I can image that you must feel unsure about pursuing western women. Let me put your mind at ease.

Everyone has there own opinion about what they like and dislike. Some people are just naturally drawn to certain lifestyles and cultures, which in my mind is perfectly acceptable. Knowing what makes you happy, and what you are comfortable with really the first step in meeting white women.  Think of it this way guys, you have the entire world to pick from! Yes that’s right. If you want exactly what you have before you, then you don’t really need to look far, but if you are looking for something different, then you’ll need to look outside your own country. That’s not always the case, as there are many modern cities all over Asia where western women live and work, but the majority are often found on the other side of the world. Don’t let the fact that you may need to do a some extra work to meet someone stop you from learning more about, and meeting women from a culture that you are interested in. Without risk there is no reward!

So, western women look attractive to you, and you may be interested in a particular culture, but what about the things that are important in keep a stable and happy relationship.  Things like your morals and values, how can you know if you will be able meet someone that will meet your criteria.  Well there are no guarantees in life, but the one thing I can confidently say about white women is that we are as diverse as it gets. In western society there are common values that we all share, but we are raised to respect others rights to have different values. So it’s really just a matter of finding the combination of looks, personality, and values/morals you are looking for. The possibilities are really endless, and honestly that’s the best part about it!

Well what if I find that, will she be accepting of my culture? Could we have a life together? Raise children? What would there life be like? What about religious differences? These are all great questions and I hear them quite often. Many men from Asia might be willing to date western women, but can it really work for the long term. If you find yourself asking these questions I want you to remember this one thing. Repeat after me, we are all human, and therefore we are all the same.  We may have grown up on opposite sides of the world, with some cultural differences, but when it comes down to it, we are all human. We all feel pain, joy, sorrow, guilt, and experience life the same way. The more you get to know people from any age, race, or country, the more you will see that what we experience is very similar.  Western women will see you as an equal to them, respect you, and want to understand you just as much as you want to understand them. Western women will also will appreciate all the good things your culture has to offer, your hard work ethic, dedication to family, and etc..

White women are in general raised to be mature, forgiving, accepting, confident, more in touch with their bodies, more outspoken, have character and lots personality, and we want to share ourselves with you. Honestly as women in the western world, I am so used to diversity that I would be strange not to see it on a daily basis. We are used to it here, we embrace it, and we will embrace you. If you have ever talked to any AMWF couples you will find that there is usually never a problem with blending cultures, that each is open and accepting of each other. They are dedicated and committed to a long lasting relationship, and are willing to work hard to keep each other happy. That’s exactly what she wants for herself, and what she wants from you also. So stop worrying if thing will work out, because it will. You will find that beautiful women who will have the values/morals you want. You will have no problem raising your children, or doing anything else you could have done in your home country. With the right person things will all work out. So get out there guys, you have the whole world to choose from!

 

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5 Responses to Why are Men from Asia Worried About Having a Relationship with White Women?

  1. Alex says:

    Maybe they are scared that they are not gonna be seen as batman of us (metaforicly speaking here) and because the sociaty tells that western women are independent,they figure that they are not needed.This is something traditional men from west have a problem with as well.And it can be hard to get how a women needs you and what your roll is if u dont totally get the culture.Then it is so much easier to stick with what u know.Its like with everything in life,it takes real courage for a person to quite something when they are succesfull at it and start from the begining with something they are bad at.I definitly have more respect for people who dont take the easy way 🙂

    • notalex says:

      So Alex, would you explain more then how we should proceed like you said?
      And Laura, how do we know if a girl into Asian guys or not? I know guys who guys rejected by a woman because they do not date ” your kind” and that was an Asian girl. I know this is rather a generalization.

      • AMWF Love says:

        To be honest, there is really no specific way to tell other the the usual signs that women give when she is interested in a man. She may be into Asian culture, and if you happen to notice it then you mite be able to tell. As an Asian man you just need to be you, forget about race, and do not let anything stop you from talking to, making friends, dating, or marring the women you want to.
        Women who say they do not date ” your kind” are really not every smart women, if you ask me. You should not discriminate by race, its not cool. I would not even give those women the time of day, as they clearly don’t know what they are missing. Of course everyone has the right to date whom they want, its just that race should not be the main factor in the choice.

        -Laura

  2. Alex says:

    Hi notAlex
    Like your nickname 🙂
    I wrote u initially a long comment but I didnt manage to post it.Ok I will try to make it short.I think that when dateing u shouldnt really look at it as if a women is in to Asian men or not.U need to have confidence and value your self.Forget about this thing that women dont date Asian men.See your self as an asset and first and formust as a man not an Asian man,just a man is fine :)Then instead of thinking should she have me or what can I add to her,u should be thinking what can she add to me.Like with me if a guy buys me diamonds,I clearly state that I only expect gifts made by him or God.A dimond ring is not made by God unless it is in a rockform.Some people find it arrogant,I dont. I see it if we were on Titanic,I wouldnt be like Kate, not only would I manage to save Leonardo,I probably would save some of the crew as well.Now he can give diamonds to a women like Kate :)And thats how u should look at your self.Just because a white women speaks chineese or has a hots for Asian men doesnt mean she is valuble to u.If u think like that u may end up with a women who makes u feel that u should be gratefull that she choose u.Do u see some white guys in Japan beein excited because a Japanese girl likes West and speaks english.So why should u be excited if a girl is in to Asian cultur.She should first like u because u are hot or funny :)Asian cultur u can intruduce while u are seeing her.Like u can start by takeing her to a gallery that shows Asian art.If she is intressted in architecture then u can buy her a book about Asian architecture that she may enjoy.But not all the time really because Im sure u have other intressts as well.If u are worried about cultural issues,I honestly think the best way is to ask her a lot of questions.And u guys have it easy since women love talking :)So ask her if she has dated other cultures then her own?What went wrong there?What would be her fears and so on.Ok I will see if I can post this now 🙂

  3. George says:

    There are other major issues as well: (1) Loosing face if an Asian asks a white woman out on a date and is rejected..does not appear too good to his Asian friends; (2) Afraid of his family’s reactions; (3) Afraid of racism from the woman’s family. These are three main reasons but we can think of others.

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