Men from Asia: Online and Long Distance Relationships Can they Work?

So you’ve been looking for that special someone and you, like millions of others, have turned to the internet for help. With the advent of social networking, and dating sites, it is now easier than ever before to meet someone. But I am sure you may have experienced at times how unstable, unrealistic, and unreliable, it can be. I know that it can be frustrating, and maybe you look at it as good practice, or an opportunity to build up your confidence. Maybe you see it as a learning experience, a way to practice approaching skills, and practice your English (if you are not already fluent in it). Maybe you partake in short flirtatious conversations, talk about your lives and what you may have  in common, and as long as things don’t get out of control, it can be a pleasant experience.  But as a man living in Asia, what choice do you really have to meet and communicate with white women? Often times within your own country you will have rare opportunities to meet western women, even if you live in larger more modernized cities in Asian.  So what choice do you have? Because if you’re looking for a women in the US, Canada, or Europe, the internet is really your only option. Unless you plan to make the decision to move there and start a new life, the internet is the next best thing.

As you navigate your way through the masses of people, maybe you have a method to narrow down your choice to the right type of people, or maybe you just randomly talk to any women that have cute pictures. But however you do it, I am sure you’re thinking in the back of your mind, can this really work out? Can I meet someone and actually make a long distance relationship work?  Do most women that I meet just want fun, or just want to be good friends, and would they even consider having a long distant relationship with me?Those are really good questions, and I think that it depends on the individuals. Some people just are looking for fun, online sex, and other unmentionable things. These types of people, you can tell their character after only a short conversation. If you’re generally interested in getting to know someone, then these people really should be avoided. Don’t waste your time on someone that it not interested in you for who you are as a person.

Dating and relationships online can be similar to the real life thing. You need to weed out the people that you are not interested in, and start getting to know the people that you think would be a good match for you. Yes it takes time, an investment, and effort, just like in none virtual relationship building.  But I don’t think it’s a waste of time, because if you are honest about yourself you can make some very meaningful relationships.

So, do I think meeting someone online can ever work? Yes I do, and here is how it can:

1. You need to share the same morals, values, and intellectual standards.

2. You need to be honest about yourself, wants, needs, habits, lifestyle choices and etc..

3. You need to be the type of individual who is dedicated to the ones you choose to care about, and treat those people with respect.

4. Be honest about the way you look, personal grooming habits, and etc..

Yes again, it’s just like in a non virtual relationship! You need to do the same things, but it’s just that you are not always there in person to be with them. If you can do this then I think you have a great chance of making a relationship work. Eventually things can become serious, and you will have to start meeting in person. Then there will come a time when you need to decide where you want to live, in which country, which will give up a job, leave family and friends, and all those kinds of issues.

So can online dating and relationships work? Yes they can! When we see them fail it’s because people are not honest, are not true to who they are, and you can not build a friendship or romantic relationship on that kind of mentality.

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11 Responses to Men from Asia: Online and Long Distance Relationships Can they Work?

  1. Andrew says:

    There are some people who require a more emotional and intellectual stimulation than others. In an American culture where sex is promoted over real connections; it is not a surprise to find that long term relationships do in fact work. However, at some point there needs to be a time where both parties eventually create a lifestyle together in person. We are meant to live life together, no vicariously through the Internet.

    In essence, the Internet and long-distance relationships are good for developing a solid connection in which the physical presence of the other may be a deterrent. It’s just that you will eventually get to know someone well enough that it only makes sense to start creating a life together.

  2. Alex says:

    But how do u know the persons manners and how they treat people in real life?I have never done internet dateing but Im considering now since Im new in LA and its getting boring just sitting home. Isnt maybe social groups better to meet because what if u connect online with someone and when u meet them they have terrible matters towards people or something like that or do people end up beeing what u expected? 

    • AMWF Love says:

      Internet dating makes it easier to find the more shy and quiet types who tend not to aggregate to the nightlife scene. Usually Asian Males tend to be very conservative, probably they may have the guts to message you, and their responses will often sound friendly. It is confusing to tell if they are interested or not because they don’t immediately express it (that’s pretty common for that to happen).

      Depending on the type of Asian Male you want to be with, a Technophile, let’s say, will sometimes have an underdeveloped sense of social skills. If you mean terrible manners of being mean spirited, then the only way to find out is really trial and error – and if you have a bad gut feeling then call it off. If he’s just unaware of the proper manners and willing to learn, then that’s a different story.

      All of us hide behind a figurative mask. Some perfer an online type, while others will use it in person. We do it to naturally protect ourselves from harm. Yes it is a total bummer that we have to go through the whole mask phase until you find out if he’s a jerk or not, but that’s what it takes to start and build relationships. You have to risk it. That’s really the only way.

      – Brian

  3. AMWF Love says:

    The Internet and long-distance relationships are good for developing a solid connection at first and like I said if you are honest then things can work out… friendship or romantic love. It would be better to meet someone in person, but sometimes its not always an option.

  4. Sarah says:

    hi I met my boyfriend through the internet but not through an online dating site or a social network, We met through QQ by a happy accident. I think QQ is absolutely the best way for a western girl to meet a Chinese guy on the internet. However I suppose chatrooms and social networks are probably the best way for Chinese guys to find western girls

    • Zacky says:

      you guys are so lucky….lol
      extremely few western girls on QQ, would please you tell me how you found QQ, just wondering, also can I have you on my QQ, add me 52646375 :p

  5. Alex says:

    Do they have simular website in english?

  6. Victor chakraborty says:

    Hii everyone m from india and i have been looking for someone abroad from europe the reason is i will b there in few years regarding my studies so i can be for her near her forever.but i have been through disastrous 3 Heartbreaks last one made me even cry cuz one of her racist friend insulted me badly.i need someone to love i love selflessly innocently i only want to give my whole life to someone.i need help

  7. Alex says:

    Hey Victor maybe u can try Match.com and that type of sites.But dont put that much open stuff about your self or talk to much about love and what u wanna do for women.Most women would find that cheezy.Also I dont know but I think there will be a risk that some Europen women will think that u are only after visa in Europe if u write like that.Try one of the sites and see how other men put they profile and just do the same.

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